Sunday, 21 November 2010

Abortion, Vulgarity and Arrogance

It is becoming increasingly obvious that people in our country are becoming more and more argumentative and judgemental. Most people who speak out are usually telling others what they should and shouldn't do and worse, what they should and shouldn't think or believe in. They all seem to think they are the only ones who are right. What happened to tolerance, British reserve and freedom of speech?

I don't mean we shouldn't vent our feelings about things that really are wrong, but why do most people now feel they have the right to be so aggressively nasty to so many people about anything at all? Sarah Palin has had some horrendous things said about her on Twitter this morning, which is what caused me to write this post. She is against abortion and from what I gather, in all cases regardless. Why is that a problem to so many people? She is entitled to that opinion. Whether she is right or not to you or me, it is her right to believe what she wants.

Let's put this into perspective. Abortion is a name used for murdering a foetus. A foetus is an unborn baby. If someone murders a pregnant woman and the foetus within her dies, it is suddenly called a baby and the murderer is guilty of two murders. How come then, it isn't murder if a woman chooses to kill it herself? There are babies being killed, yes killed at 24 weeks in this country. They can survive at that stage so how is that acceptable? Why is is wrong to say it isn't liked or that a huge number of people don't like this happening? How come the one murdering that child is entitled to do it and have others shout loudly that she is allowed to do it, but the ones saying they don't agree with it are all slammed down for saying in their eyes it is wrong?

There are cases for abortion where rape or danger to the mother's health should be taken into consideration obviously, but as a general means of contraception it is never acceptable to me and I, and people like me, are just as entitled to say that as those are who don't agree with us. Why do people suddenly think themselves entitled to tell the rest of us what we should and shouldn't think? How dare they be arrogant enough to tell me my beliefs, thoughts and opinions are wrong because they might go against theirs? The interesting thing is, most doing the shouting about everyone's rights and who are doing the name calling are themselves the guiltiest of all. After all, they are the ones telling all of us what we should and shouldn't be thinking.

Women today are sleeping around in a way that is quite frightening. Let them, it's their choice even though it certainly wouldn't be mine. The problem with this though, is that many of them doing so use abortion as a form of contraception rather than any other method. How awful is that? There is no thought to what they are doing and they treat an unborn child as though it were nothing. That is their decision and we are all told it's none of our business and to accept it. Okay then, if that's the case, many others believe what they are doing to be very wrong. As that is their belief, why are they told they aren't entitled to think it's wrong? Why are they called horrendous names and talked about as though they were the murderers and not the ones killing their own children?

It is high time people in this country got back to being what we once were - decent and respectful towards others. Allow each other to have their own beliefs whatever they are. Stop this dreadful name calling and vulgar public display of attacking anyone with ideas different to one's own.

Social networking sites and the internet are brilliant if used properly. Sadly, many people today use it all to shout at, bully, victimise and dictate to others who they know nothing about and have never met, just because they believe in something different than they themselves do.

I am all for freedom of speech, after all, that is what our men fought for and gave us as our right. What I do not believe in, is the way most people choose to use this right now to attack others. There is hatred brewing in this country and it is escalating rapidly. We are becoming as fanatical and demonstrative as the people we used to once ridicule for being the same way.

How ironic that these people who believe themselves so well read and intelligent do-gooders fighting for others, are actually doing more harm than good to human rights and freedom of speech. Their very behaviour is actually contradictory of all they are saying. If they really believe we should all be allowed to do as we please, then why are they on Twitter abusing people and calling them names saying how wrong they all are?

If you want an abortion and can live with what you are doing, then do it, it is your choice. If you believe that is acceptable for others too, then speak out and say so - it is your belief and you have every right to say so without being attacked. Likewise, if you don't believe in it and wish to speak out against it - do so. Again, it is your belief and you have the same amount of right as the women who disagree with you.

Come on people. let us regain our dignity, let people think what they like and say so. Stop this vulgar public display of arrogance, temper and hatred that is spewing all over our social networking sites and media. Let us get back to a sense of normality and allow others to lead the life thy choose without all of us being arrogant enough to think we know better. We don't. most of us can't sort our own lives out, so why do we think we can tell others how to live theirs any better?


  1. My mother and I just had a conversation about this. People have become very polarized in their opinions and cannot tolerate hearing the other side. Thanks for posting on this subject.

  2. I feel that the "reality television" world has branched over to the writing world or vice-versa. We seem to be fascinated with the macabre or the most abnormal version of reality and then feel free to be at the other end of reasonableness when it comes time to critique or support our view.

    For my purposes, that is good and not so good. I want to talk about the things that make people very uncomfortable (suicide, various forms of abuse including self-abuse) because I feel that had those things been able to be spoken outloud people I love might still be drawing breath. However, I have also seen my words taken out of context and some very cruel things said back to me.

    I do not feel the same way that you do about abortion, mostly because I am afraid of the government's right to legislate what a woman does or doesn't do with her body. That being said, I applaud you for your right to say it.

    "The right to swing my fist ends where the other man's nose begins."
    - attributed to Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.

  3. There's no reasonable balance anymore, that's the problem. It's why the Muslim fanatics burning a poppy last week weren't arrested, even though they were inciting racial hatred, now a criminal offence. If Christians were to burn a burkha or somesuch, they'd be straight in clink.
    Commensense hasn't just flown out the window, it's permanently migrated.

  4. Thank you for your post. I'm in the process of writing a blog about abortion and the post-abortion experience and I've spent the past 30 years hiding in the fear of how I would be treated if the people I knew realized what I did. But now after coming clean with the people that mean the most to me and writing about the struggles of that appearance I've talked with some that had no idea what is was like to be in recovery from an abortion. Knowledge and understanding is the only way we can help others see through our eyes.

  5. life begins at conception..